A close relationship with the right partner is important to your health and happiness. You want your relationship to be the right match for you, but sometimes the initial attraction isn’t enough to make a lasting partnership.
Tension, boredom, frustration, fear and anger are not emotions that you should be feeling often when you have a healthy romantic partnership.
Evaluating your feelings about the relationship is a good place to start when you’re not sure if it’s the right relationship for you, but here are 10 signs that it’s probably the wrong relationship.
10 SIGNS YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS WRONG FOR YOU
1. YOU FEEL CONTEMPT.
Not being in love with your mate anymore is one thing, but feeling hatred or contempt for their behavior is a very bad sign for your relationship. Bitterness, resentment and fear are also painful negative emotions that are not part of a healthy partnership.
2. YOU BLAME EACH OTHER.
Your partner blames you for the way things are in the relationship, but you’re blaming them at the same time. It’s likely that you both share some responsibility for the way things are.
3. YOU ARE VERY DIFFERENT PEOPLE.
Your partner likes to sit and watch TV all day but you’d rather be out socializing with friends. If you have very different interests, one of you is going to feel let down when their needs are not being met. Major personality differences can lead to conflict in a relationship.
4. YOU AREN’T ACTING LIKE YOURSELF.
5. YOU’VE LOST INTEREST.
6. YOU HAVE DIFFERENT GOALS.
7. YOU HAVE RELATIONSHIP FANTASIES INVOLVING OTHER PEOPLE.
8. YOU DON’T WANT TO BE INTIMATE.
9. YOU DON’T TRUST EACH OTHER.
10. YOU AREN’T MAKING AN EFFORT.
When you’re at a breaking point and have decided that something must change, you can ask your partner to work with you to make things better. You can also seek the help of a professional couples counselor. Or, you can trust your gut and get out of a bad relationship before it causes more emotional harm.